Re: Issue 4

So I had dinner tonight with my special friend GMA. This dinner was initiated by him earlier in the week to discuss an e-mail I had sent him. Pretty much, I told him to never contact me again because I felt he was inconsiderate, flaky and just full of BS.

My email was prompted by:

Not returning phone calls >14 days
Not following-up on plans to got out that HE made
Not even calling me on the holiday
Leaving me a lame “We should do lunch” voicemail

His response to this e-mail was entirely unexpected. He wanted to meet to “clear the air” and assure me that I was foremost in his “thoughts and in his heart.” If he “lost” me it “would be the end of him.” "This is not business- this is romance."

OK.

Of course after reading this my BF and I have:

Picked bridesmaids dresses
Picked a venue for the wedding
Created an attendee list
Named the kids

Back to tonight’s dinner.

We had a great dinner- with our normal work/life/kids (he has 1) dialogue. Meanwhile, I am waiting for him to talk about the real reason we met. I figure this must be important to him because he looks terrible- and he admits he has had a bug that he is finally starting to get over. Great. Now I KNOW we are not sleeping together tonight. Damn.

Finally we leave and he walks me to my car and decides to have the “discussion” outside of my car in the 23 degree weather.

I think I need to cancel the wedding plans.

In a nutshell:

He is not ready for a relationship.
He wants to make sure we can remain friends.
He thinks I’m “great” and would want to make sure we could always be friends.
He’s having a party at his house on the 23rd- please bring my girlfriends.

This is what I wore my favorite La Perla for?

Why didn’t he just respond to this in e-mail? Is it because it could be misconstrued? Because I know from his e-mail response I was expecting him to talk about our relationship progressing, not wanting to make sure we stay “friends.”

Meanwhile, I said none of this to him. Just agreed and said “that makes sense.” I’m an idiot.